Safety centre
Last updated: August 2026
Some of us are in places where being known is dangerous. This page explains exactly what the platform reveals about you and what it keeps private, so you can make your own decisions rather than trusting a promise.
You choose whether you appear in the directory
Your profile visibility has three settings. Anyone means signed-out visitors can find you. Members only means just signed-in members can. Nobody keeps you out of the Queerodex entirely — you can still post and take part everywhere else.
New accounts start at Members only. Appearing publicly is always a deliberate choice you make, never a default.
Nobody reads your direct messages
Moderators can see that a conversation was opened, between whom, when, and the intent the sender chose. They cannot see what was said. This is enforced in the database itself, not by policy — there is no rule anywhere granting staff access to message contents.
One exception, stated plainly: messages you send to a Queer Common team account are read by the team, because they are the recipient. Those are the accounts listed in the pinned post in the Lounge.
Content warnings are opt-in
Posts carrying a warning stay collapsed behind their label until you choose to open them. Nothing difficult appears on your screen without you deciding to look.
Applying for funding confidentially
The grant application form has a confidentiality toggle. Turning it on restricts your application to admins only — moderators cannot open it — and any resulting public cause is published without naming you.
Use it if being named would put you or anyone else at risk. You do not have to explain why.
If someone is harming you here
Tap Clock on the post or message. It goes straight to the moderation queue with whatever reason you add. You do not have to confront the person, and they are not told who reported them.
If you are in immediate danger, contact local emergency services first. We are a community, not a crisis service.
Protecting yourself beyond this site
Use an email address that is not tied to your legal name if that matters where you live. Consider a display name that is not searchable alongside your other accounts.
Remember that anything you post to a public cause page can be seen by anyone, including people who are not members.